Some Women Say Live Laugh Love. Abigail Adams Threatened to Foment a Rebellion in 1776.

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Abigal Adams was only 31 years old when she put her husband on written notice.

He was in Philadelphia helping invent a country. She was in Massachusetts running three farms, four kids, and the family finances through a war zone with smallpox going around. He had not been writing back as often as she liked.

So she wrote him this:

Remember the ladies. Or we will start a rebellion.

His reply did not age well.

The Whole Letter

The famous part — "remember the ladies" — is the only piece anyone ever quotes. The rest of the letter is still sitting in her actual handwriting at the Massachusetts Historical Society, and it reads like this:

"I desire you would remember the ladies and be more generous and favourable to them than your ancestors. Do not put such unlimited power into the hands of the Husbands. Remember all Men would be tyrants if they could. If particular care and attention is not paid to the Ladies we are determined to foment a Rebellion, and will not hold ourselves bound by any Laws in which we have no voice, or Representation."

Translation:

A wife and mother told her husband — the future second president of the United States — that if women were not included in the new American laws, women were going to start their own rebellion.

In writing. Signed. While he was sitting in the room where the Declaration of Independence was being drafted.

That is not a polite request. That is a written threat from a wife to a future Founding Father, mailed across state lines, during a war.

Some women say live laugh love.

Abigail Adams sent a threat in the mail.

The Reply

John Adams wrote back two weeks later. April 14, 1776.

His opening line was, verbatim:

"As to your extraordinary Code of Laws, I cannot but laugh."

He laughed at her.

He compared women asking for representation to disobedient children. All in his own handwriting. Three months before he co-signed a document declaring that all men are created equal.

Then he wrote — in real ink, on real paper, sober — the literal sentence:

"This is rather too coarse a Compliment but you are so saucy, I wont blot it out."

He called her saucy.

Sir.

Her Résumé

She was, technically, applying for women's representation in the laws of a brand new country. Her qualifications

Education

• Self-taught. Schools did not admit women.

Experience

• Ran three farms, raised four children, managed family finances and war-zone logistics — solo — while her husband was abroad for six consecutive years.

• Survived smallpox, the Revolutionary War, and a Massachusetts winter without central heat.

• Hand-corresponded with Thomas Jefferson, who treated her as a serious intellectual peer.

• Advised the future second president of the United States on every major political decision of his career. In writing. With receipts.

• Produced one (1) future president of the United States. Raised him primarily solo while the father was abroad doing "diplomacy."

Key Skills

• Estate management

• Strategic correspondence

• Threat composition (in writing, under signature, mailed across state lines, during a war)

Notable Output

"Remember all Men would be tyrants if they could."

"Do not put such unlimited power into the hands of the Husbands."

"We are determined to foment a Rebellion."

That last one was mailed to a Founding Father, in her own handwriting, while he was sitting in the room where the Declaration of Independence was being drafted. She was thirty-one.

Equipment

• One (1) goose-feather quill. Should have been insured by Lloyd's of London. Was instead used to put a future president on written notice months before he co-signed all men are created equal.

References

• Thomas Jefferson — intellectual peer

• John Quincy Adams — the literal next president of the United States, raised by her

• The historical record

Final Credentials

• Wife of the second president of the United States

• Mother of the sixth president of the United States

• The only woman in American history with that résumé

Title Received From Husband

"Saucy."

Then 144 Years

This year, March 31 was the 250th anniversary of Abigail's letter. A quarter of a millennium since she put it in writing.

American women did not get the vote until August 18, 1920.

That is 144 years and four months between her writing "remember the ladies" and this country agreeing she had a point.

Math: that is five generations of American women, born and buried, before they were allowed to vote on a school board.

Their whole lives lived inside the answer no, but you are saucy.

Fifteen Months

That is how long it took once women could vote.

Fifteen months after the 19th Amendment was ratified, Congress passed the Sheppard-Towner Act — the first federal social welfare program in the entire history of the United States.

The very first one. Not at the founding. Not during the Civil War. Not in the Progressive Era. The first time the federal government decided to pay for keeping people alive happened the second women could vote.

It funded prenatal clinics. It sent traveling nurses to rural mothers — mothers in places like rural Nebraska, who had been giving birth alone for two hundred years.

Infant mortality went down.

Real babies. Real cribs. Real farmhouses. Saved because women finally got political voice and immediately spent it on the thing nobody else had been paying for.

If John Adams had listened to his wife in 1776, that would have been 144 years earlier.

You cannot calculate the babies. You cannot calculate the brains.

She told them. In writing. In 1776.

He called her saucy.

The Shirt:

This is not a cute graphic with a slogan stamped on it.

It is a printed receipt of what happened.

The shirt says exactly what the historical record says: Abigail Adams said, REMEMBER THE LADIES. — 1776. Bold serif, lightly distressed — because the letter is two and a half centuries old and so is the warning. Comfort Colors, built to last another hundred winters.

For the women who read history for fun. For the history teachers tired of leaving the founding mothers out of the lesson plan. For the Hamilton fans who already knew. For the moms raising daughters who deserve to know that women were here in 1776 — that they spoke up, they were right, and they got laughed at and called saucy by a future president for the trouble.

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